Mary Keightley's Blog

We must change how we think about a problem so that we can get a solution. During a coaching session a lady who was going through a fairly acrimonious divorce told me she was not coping. She just wanted to cry all of the time. I asked her what age she was, (she replied 37), I asked her what age she was when she met her husband (she replied 35) I asked her if her mother was alive (she replied yes) I asked her was her mother’s mother, her grandmother was alive (she replied yes) So I said let’s say you live to you are 80! Let’s take a look at the facts. 1. You had 34 years before you met your husband right? (she said right) 2. When you divorce you will be 38 right? (she said right) 3. If you live to you are 80 you will have 42 years after you divorce him right? (she said right). 4. When you are 80 you can look back at your life and know that you lived 3 years with this guy 77 without him. He was a tiny part of your life. Right? (she said right) 5. So remind me what was the problem? (she replied I don’t have one do I?)